What irritates me: warning.. offensive...

Ok so i dont consider myself to be a judgemental person.. i believe that i have certain standards for my own life and i hold myself and my family members to those standards .. however other people : to each their own..

What seems to irritate me however is the fact that my family and i hold up to those standards .. i met my husband we got married have jobs and now a daughter... we work hard during and post working hours ... we dont have help we care for our daughter and do everything we can to keep her healthy and happy .. my husband and i go above and beyond to make each other and our household work... we fill it with love for one another and our little girl. We dont lie cheat or steal.. we do things the honest way all the time... you may think that this post is all about me or my family but its not... i dont expect a special reward for doing things the right way or what i like to call the right way for our standards.. what this post is really about is the fact that so many around us do things the wrong way sometimes even the dishonest way and get what they want. They get the house by lying.. they get governmental assistance (of whatever kind) by choosing not to be married so they wont have to show a joint income. or they can stay home to raise their children something i only wish i could do to be there for every single beautiful moment. i understand many people run their households differently.. people make choices with their families and childrens best interest in mind... and let me apologize in advance for any hurt feelings because in all actuality i'm only venting because i'm angry ... angry with the system.. angry with society... angry that this has become the normal everyday functionality of many people. but i'm irritated about it... i'm irritated that because i'm married i can't qualify for florida kid care for my daughter instead we have to pay hundreds of dollars a month in insurance premiums all because of our income when in reality we're just making it. I'm irritated that we're saving to buy a house that we could potentially never afford because of the cost of living and since due to the fact that once again we're married and have that lovely little thing called a joint income we do not qualify for any sort of government assistance programs to try to buy that house... i'm irritated that we did things the right way and get penalized for it. That we have to struggle at times just trying to get ahead. but when is that time going to come that by not lying and not cheating that we get rewarded or recognized? i'm not totally sure maybe i'm waiting for something that will never be. but if thats the case how on earth are we supposed to teach our daughter that humility is the right way to go that doing things the honest way will always be the best way to live. i'm at a loss. plain and simple.